Go to the Limits of Your LongingOctober 28, 2020
I should have ….November 9, 2020
The chart of emotions is a map of emotional states – a way of identifying and working with the complex range of emotions we experience every moment. It doesn’t imply that any of us are always in any of these states, but as we release and let go of emotions, we find that spend more time in the more energetic and peaceful states.
The Sedona Method embodies the concept that emotions drive our mental states. In the low energy states of apathy, grief and fear, our minds will be quite slow and will easily get locked into fixed thinking patterns where we have few options open to us. As we move up the scale (actually towards our true centre) we have more energy, more creativity, easier contact with others and so on. As we release emotions, we get closer to our true centre – the part that is undisturbed by what is appearing on the outside – and the mind gets progressively quieter and our experience becomes more joyful.
The chart of emotions is known as AGFLAP-CAP for short.
Apathy — 9th Emotional State
In apathy, we feel as though desire is dead and it’s no use. We can’t do anything, and no one else can help. We feel dense, heavy, and see no way out. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt. Our minds can get so noisy that we may go numb. The mental pictures we have are the most limited and destructive so that we see only failure and how we can’t and no one else can, as well. We have little or no energy to act on our pictures and thoughts because inwardly we are being pulled in so many conflicting directions.
Bored / Can’t win / Careless / Cold. / Cut-off / Dead / Defeated / Depressed / Demoralized / Desolate / Despair / Discouraged / Disillusioned / Doomed / Drained / Failure / Forgetful / Futile / Giving up / Hardened / Hopeless / Humourless / I can’t / I don’t care / I don’t count / Inattentive / Indecisive / Indifferent / Invisible / It’s too late / Lazy / Let it wait / Listless Loser / Lost / Negative / Numb / Overwhelmed / Powerless / Resigned / Shock / Spaced out / Stoned / Stuck / Too tired / Unfeeling / Unfocused / Useless / Vague / Wasted / What’s the use? / Why try? / Worthless
Grief — 8th Emotional State
In grief, we want someone else to help us because we feel that we can’t do anything on our own, but we hope maybe someone else can. We cry out in pain for someone to do it for us. The body has a little more energy than in apathy, but it is so contracted that it is painful. The mind is a little less cluttered than in apathy, but still very noisy and opaque. We picture our pain and loss, often getting lost in these images. Our thoughts revolve around ideas of how much we hurt, what we have lost, and whether or not we can get anyone else to help us.
Abandoned / Abused / Accused / Anguished / Ashamed / Betrayed / Blue / Cheated / Despair / Disappointed / Distraught / Embarrassed / Forgotten / Guilty / Heartbroken / Heartache / Heartsick / Helpless / Hurt / If only / Ignored / Inadequate / Inconsolable / It’s not fair / Left out / Longing / Loss / Melancholy / Misunderstood / Mourning / Neglected / Nobody cares /Nobody loves me / Nostalgia / Passed over / Pity / Poor me / Regret / Rejected / Remorse / Sadness / Sorrow / Tearful / Tormented / Torn / Tortured / Unhappy / Unloved / Unwanted / Vulnerable / Why me? / Wounded
Fear — 7th Emotional State
In fear, we want to strike out, but we don’t because we think the risk is too great — “they” will probably hit us harder. We want to reach out, but do not because we think we’ll get hurt. The body has a little more energy than in grief, but it is still so contracted that it is mostly painful. Feelings can rise and fall very rapidly, like water on a hot skillet. The mind is a little less cluttered than in grief, but still very noisy and opaque. Our thoughts are about doom and destruction. All we can think and see is how we will get hurt, what we may lose, and how we can protect those around us and ourselves.
Anxious / Apprehensive / Cautious / Clammy / Cowardice / Defensive / Distrust / Doubt / Dread / Embarrassed / Evasive / Foreboding / Frantic / Hesitant / Horrified / Hysterical / Inhibited / Insecure / Irrational / Nausea / Nervous / Panic / Paralysed / Paranoid / Scared / Secretive / Shaky / Shy / Skeptical / Stage fright / Superstitious / Tense / Terrified / Threatened / Timid / Trapped / Uncertain / Uneasy / Vulnerable / Want to escape / Wary / Worry
Lust — 6th Emotional State
In lust, we desire possession. We are WANTING. We hunger for money, power, sex, people, places and things, but with hesitation. We may or may not reach out. We have an underlying feeling that we cannot or should not have what we want. The body has a little more energy than in fear. It is still quite contracted, but the sensations now are sometimes quite pleasurable, especially compared to the lower-energy emotions. Feelings can be very intense. The mind is a little less cluttered than in fear, but still noisy and obsessive. We may try and medicate our pictures with positive fantasies, but underneath our pictures are really about what we don’t have. Our thoughts are about what we need to get and what we don’t have. No matter how much we do get, we never feel satisfied and rarely enjoy what we have.
Abandon / Anticipation / Callous / Can’t wait / Compulsive / Craving / Demanding / Devious / Driven / Envy / Exploitive / Fixated / Frenzy / Frustrated / Gluttonous / Greedy / Hoarding / Hunger / I want / Impatient / Lascivious / Lecherous / Manipulative / Miserly / Must have it / Never enough / Never satisfied / Oblivious / Obsessed / Overindulgent / Possessive / Predatory / Pushy / Reckless / Ruthless / Scheming / Selfish / Voracious / Wanton / Wicked
Anger — 5th Emotional State
In anger, we desire to strike out, to hurt and stop others, but with hesitation. We may or may not strike out. The body has a little more energy than in lust. It is less contracted, and the sensations can often be very intense and explosive. The mind is a little less cluttered than in lust, but still noisy, stubborn, and obsessive. Our thought-pictures are about what we are going to do to others and of destruction. Our thoughts are about what we can do to get even and how we are going to make others pay. This energy can frighten us and cause us to move into lower-energy levels and to hurt ourselves. The actions we take are mostly destructive to those around us and ourselves.
Abrasive / Aggressive / Annoyed / Argumentative / Belligerent / Boiling / Brooding / Caustic / Defiant / Demanding / Destructive / Disgust / Explosive / Fierce / Frustrated / Fuming / Furious / Harsh / Hatred / Hostility / Impatience / Indignant / Irate / Jealous / Livid / Mad / Mean / Merciless / Murderous / Outraged / Petulant / Pushy / Rebellious / Resentment / Resistant / Revolted / Rude / Savage / Simmering / Sizzling / Smouldering / Spiteful / Steely / Stern / Stewing / Stubborn / Sullen / Vengeful / Vicious / Violent / Volcanic / Wicked / Wilful
Pride — 4th Emotional State
In pride, we want to maintain the status quo. We are unwilling to change or move, and therefore we stop others from movement, so they don’t pass us by. The body has a little more energy than in anger, but it often becomes unavailable. Even though it is less contracted, it is often muted and less visible. The mind is a little less cluttered than in anger, but still noisy, rigid and self-involved. Our mental pictures and thoughts are about what we have done and what we know. If we are even aware of other, we hope they will notice how great we are to cover our nagging doubts.
Above reproach / Aloof / Arrogant / Bigoted / Boastful / Bored / Clever / Closed / Complacent / Conceited / Contemptuous / Cool / Critical / Disdain / Dogmatic / False dignity / False humility / False virtue / Gloating / Haughty / Holier than thou / Hypocritical / Icy / Isolated / Judgemental / Know-it-all / Narrow-minded / Never wrong / Opinionated / Overbearing / Patronizing / Pious / Prejudiced / Presumptuous / Righteous / Rigid / Self-absorbed / Self-Satisfied / Selfish / Smug / Snobbish / Special / Spoiled / Stoic / Stubborn / Stuck-up / Superior / Uncompromising / Unfeeling / Unforgiving / Unyielding / Vain
Courageousness — 3rd Emotional State
In courageousness, we have the willingness to move without hesitation. We can do. We can correct. We can change whatever, wherever needed. We have the willingness to let go and to move on. The body has a lot more energy that in pride, and it is available for constructive outward actions. Our energy is high and available, and clear. The mind is much less cluttered than in pride and a lot less noisy. It is flexible, resilient, and open. Our mental pictures and thoughts are about what we can do and learn, and how we can support others in the same. We are self-motivated and self-reliant while still being willing for other to succeed. We can laugh out loud, even at our own mistakes. Life is fun.
Adventurous / Alert / Alive / Assured / Aware / Cantered / Certain / Cheerful / Clarity / Compassion / Competent / Confident / Creative / Daring / Decisive / Dynamic / Eager / Enthusiastic / Exhilaration / Explorative / Flexible / Focused / Giving / Happy / Honourable / Humour / I can / Independent / Initiative / Integrity / Invincible / Loving / Lucid / Motivated / Non-resistant / Open / Optimistic / Perspective / Positive / Purposeful / Receptive / Resilient / Resourceful / Responsive / Secure / Self-sufficient / Sharp / Spontaneous / Strong / Supportive / Tireless / Vigorous / Visionary / Willing / Zest
Acceptance — 2nd Emotional State
In acceptance, we have and enjoy everything as it is. We have no need to change anything. It just is, and it’s OK. It’s beautiful just as it is. The body has a lot more energy than in courageousness, yet it is mostly at rest, available if we need it. Our energy is light, warm and open. The mind is much less cluttered than in courageousness and is mostly quiet and content. Our mental pictures and thoughts are in love with the exquisiteness of what is. Life is joyous.
Abundance / Appreciative / Balance / Beautiful / Belonging / Childlike / Compassion / Considerate / Delight / Elated / Embracing / Empathy / Enriched / Everything’s okay / Friendly / Fullness / Gentle / Glowing / Gracious / Harmonious / Harmony / Intuitive / I have / In tune / Joyful / Loving / Magnanimous / Mellow / Naturalness / Nothing to change / Open / Playful / Radiant / Receptive / Secure / Soft / Tender / Understanding / Warm / Well-being / Wonder
Peace — 1st Emotional State
In peace, we feel “I am. I am whole, complete, and total unto myself. Everyone and everything is part of myself. It is all perfect.” The body has a lot more energy than in acceptance but is totally at rest — still. The energy is quiet and calm. The mind is clear and empty, yet totally aware. There is no need for pictures or thoughts. Life is as it is, and all is well.